ManchildRants & Raves

Shine Your Heart Out

I’ve been told I can’t swear as much.

Which is kind of a bummer.

But that’s OK—I can continue being vulgar at least.

Anyway, the point I want to make for this post simple: you are a catch. Yes. You are. And if you don’t believe that, why should anyone else?

Here’s the thing though: people are dumb.

If you’re a woman, you likely think men are idiots.

And you’re NOT wrong.

But as a man, when I tell you women are crazy—guess what?

I’m NOT wrong.

The point is people make terrible decisions all the time. This is a fact.

So when it comes to dating keep that in mind. Like, you may be a powerful, sexy, rich, successful, smart human… and be single.

That’s how dumb people are.



I’m not a great fisherman, but no one would accuse me of being a bad one, and one of the things you understand when fishing is that you’re going to put your lure or fly or bait past hundreds or thousands of fish a day, and most—MOST—will not take it. You could be using the lightest line in the world and have the perfect fly that looks identical to the natural insect and 80% or more of the fish aren’t going to take it.

Maybe they aren’t hungry at that one moment. Maybe they just ate. Maybe the light was funny. Maybe there was a shadow on the water. Maybe something splashed along the bank.


But it’s not necessarily a reflection of what you’re fishing with.

And you know that, at some point, if you’re doing the right shit: you WILL catch fish. YOU WILL.

It’s a certainty.

Food. Biology. Survival. Desire. Greed. Sex.

These things cannot be denied.

The point is: people will pass on you for a lot of reasons that have nothing to do with you.

Like, there are CERTAINLY people in your life who will regret passing on you. 100%. There are ladies I’m right now interacting with who at some point are going to be like: shit, that crazy writer was pretty cool and I missed my chance.

This is true for all of us.

So take heart and remember: you are good and you deserve to be in a loving quality relationship if you want one. You just have to keep fishing, and eventually that right person(s) will come along.


On the flipside, remember to bite sometimes.

Not every opportunity is missed, but every missed opportunity is.

Not every opportunity is missed, but every missed opportunity is.

I guess what I’m saying is that if you’re being a passive floater, rarely choosing or chasing or fighting, then you’re going to look back later and have a hell of a lot of regrets.

Because that’s what life is about.

It’s about the Chase, the Sexy, Beautiful Chase.

The Choice:

Tantalizing. Paradoxial.

And the Fight.

Goddamn, if you can’t get up for the Fight what are you doing? What? Seriously, I’m asking? If you can’t Fight for what you believe why the hell are you living?

So shine your heart out.

Shine your fucking heart out.

Let the world see how heartbreakingly beautiful you are. How strong and proud. The enormity of your heart. Your perfect compassion.

Shine your heart out.

Shine. Your. Heart. Out.

That means seizing opportunities. Looking for wins. Taking a gamble on someone intriguing. Going on roadtrips. Laughing, if only at your own goofiness.

But most of all it means being present.

No one is going to look back at their life and remember all their Instagram posts and how they got 549 likes that one time they looked particularly hot in them jeans. No one is going to put the number of followers they had on their tombstone. No one is going to lovingly recall the number of matches they had on SOD or days of consecutive SnapChat streaks.

No, what we’ll remember are our lovers. Our friends. Children, pets, experiences. Sights and sounds and tastes and smells and the electricity of the human touch. These are the things we remember.

Not every opportunity is missed, but every missed opportunity is.

Shine your heart out.


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